Recently, a blog friend of mine closed down her comments on her blog, because she had enough. Her blog had a purpose and it evolved into something else. I’m not sure if she is closing shop for good, but I’ll miss her and the conversations I had there. All of a sudden some of my other blog friends are shutting down their blogs or have just abandoned them, and I wonder if they are ok? If you guys still read my blog, can you comment here or email me to let me know that you are ok? I’m assuming that stress is taking a toll on everyone these days, because it is certainly kicking my ass. It has got me thinking about the whole to blog or not to blog question that has been in the back of my mind since I started.

I want to keep my blog going. But it is a lot of work and remember, I do it for free. I get a bunch of email, and I answer everyone, because my god, they took the time to read what I’ve said and asked my advice or gave me theirs. But my blog keeps me away from reading, and espeacially reading other people’s blogs. I have no free time. By the time I come up with something to write, finding pictures and either scanning them or downloading them, I’ve spent two or three hours on a blog post. After taking the day off blogging today, Ive decided that I’m going to keep doing it, but with certain conditions. When I began this blog in January 08, I thought I would use it to to help me begin writing after a long spell of writers block. I write about many things, and a few posts that I have written have become huge thorns in my side. People are acting completely crazy on those posts, and I can’t keep up, nor do I want to anymore. I have ADHD, and I bounce all over the place, trying to keep up with all the comments, and the rest of my life. I can’t keep up, and I’m tired of trying. I spent two hours responding to comments last night. So, I’ve closed down all commenting on quite a few posts that have gotten out of hand. There is one more left, and I’m letting you all have one more day to comment all about them. I work, I’ve got a family, a few illnesses and an upcoming surgery. I want to write about other things, better things. Plus I want to write my memoir. I just can’t keep fighting people on here about stupid stuff. I mean, I’ve had a person fake her deaths here, WTF?
I realize that it is an honor to get any visitors or comments here on my blog posts, and I want to thank all of you who visit me and comment regularly or from time to time. I’d like to “meet” more of you who have never commented, or are new but shy. I’m curious as to who reads this blog, and what you would like to talk about, or what you want me to talk about. I love books, movies, music, travel, photography, tv, designer purses, clothes, nature, animals, hiking, jewelry, shoes, hairstyles, decorating, education, etc. I’ll talk politics a bit, and of course celebrities, and just about anything else I can think of, except for my family in detail. I keep them tucked safely away.

I am exhausted, because I started a new medication that has kept me awake and cleaning just like Ellen Burstyn in Requiem for a Dream. Remember when Ellen was cleaning the house like a crazy person when she was on her uppers? I cleaned for ten hours straight today. I hauled shit up and down two flights of stairs all day. You should see my closets. And I have Fibromyalgia, which kicks my ass and never allows me to be this active. I can’t stop moving or thinking. You get the picture. I am exhausted, and I can’t sleep. My heart is pounding, my mouth is dry, and I haven’t felt this hyper since 2003. When I say I’ve had enough, this means I really have had enough. Please, I’m begging you, no more chatter or emails about them, ever.









































oh.. how I understand your sentiments!!!! And sorry, but I had to comment!!
I’ve started and ended SO many blogs because of people who have to pick apart every sentence I write.. especially when they want to get mean and nasty and degrading when I’m only expressing MY opinion.
This happened recently and I was getting SO worn out trying to get people to understand that I’m only expressing MY opinion that I wanted to just say “forget the whole thing”.
What I finally figured out is that I write for ME. It’s a way to digest things that are going on in my life and vent and unload and document.
And believe me.. there is alot going on. I always say I need a reality show but this past year has been way beyond anything I signed up for from finding out that my step son was dealing drugs.. to my house getting robbed.. trying to build a business and then having my husband arrested for something he didn’t do.
If I didn’t write, I’d probably be shooting up Black Tar!! LOL!!
I can’t write for other people.. only for myself. If someone takes something away from it.. fantastic. If they don’t.. oh well. I, too, appreciate everyone who pops in or leaves a comment but I had to stop worrying if I got a hit one day or if I didn’t.
So when is it too much? I guess when it stops being what it was meant to be.. when it feels like a job? I don’t know.. only the writer can answer that but I just wanted you to know that I enjoy your blog immensely and love your style of writing.
By: Leese on May 25, 2009
at 11:24 PM
Leese – I love that you spent the time to write all of this. I had to laugh, because I get remarks about my spelling here, too. People don’t realize how hard it is to keep theses blogs up, and the spellcheck on here isn’t the best, and if I cut and paste a word document the text comes out all funny. And since I’m exhausted, mostly write late at night, have ADHD, and everything else, I make errors all the time. Trust me, if I was getting paid I would be more careful!
I am sad to hear about your family. You have to be going crazy with everything on your plate. Are you blogging now? You didn’t put a link to your page. Let me know, I’ll come visit you, because I can see we have a lot in common.
By: thegirlfromtheghetto on May 26, 2009
at 9:49 AM
My life??? Crazy??? Oh no… <> NOT MINE!! LOL!!
Crazy just isn’t the word!
But you know what? I learned with my first marriage :: you want to talk CRAZY?? :: that it’s my choice how I handle things.
That’s why writing is so important to me.. If you were around me in person, you’d realize that my blog is basically my filter. If I said some of the things I’ve written out loud then my life would probably be a lot different. My blog is my way of determining what I’m really upset about… angry about.. pissed off about.. because sometimes it’s not the catalyst that’s the problem.
My blog is Living Me 101 ( me101.wordpress.com ) ..
Embrace the day …
~ Leese
By: Leese on May 26, 2009
at 10:43 AM
Leese – Thanks for sharing this. You are so right, my blog is my filter, too. LOL. Glad we have that in common.
By: thegirlfromtheghetto on May 29, 2009
at 6:21 AM
I just went to a talk on the weekend by Christian lander who writes the “stuff white people like” blog and he said that he has just stopped reading the comments. Can I reccomend that to you that rather than stopping them? he said he does respond to emails, but he does not check the comments. he’s actually not fond of them and the comments have gone in a very strange direction. I’m so sorry you feel this way, and that it has afected your health.
Warmest
barbra
http://intelligentwomenreadromance.wordpress.com/
By: Barbra on May 25, 2009
at 11:32 PM
I love reading your blog. I check in every day. There is a lot going on, absolutely! If writing is becoming overwhelming for you, take a break! Your health is pretty fragile right now. Do everything you can to nurture your body and soul!
By: lupusranting on May 26, 2009
at 7:11 AM
Lupusranting – I am happy to hear you visit every day. Wow, now I feel so bad I visit once a week. Shame on me. Well, I’m taking a break with some stuff, and trying to be more positive both here and in my life. It is hard, because I am a negative person. I have never wanted to be. I still have hope and optimism, and I have always treated people very nice at work, etc., but when your own mom starves and beats you, it is really hard to trust and be positive. I am also happy to report that Mayo does not think I have Lupus, as I thought for years. So this is great news. How is your health these days? Good I hope.
By: thegirlfromtheghetto on May 26, 2009
at 9:20 AM
Your blog is actually the only blog I read! So…more please!
By: Nicole Campbell on May 26, 2009
at 7:36 AM
if you write it they will read. I don’t care what my blogroll friends write about..I just like it when they write.
By: javajunkee on May 26, 2009
at 8:04 AM
JavaJunkee – Thank you! I love and miss reading everyone’s blogs every day. Now I’m down to once a week and I hate it. I miss all of you. And me, too. I hate when someone takes a break, I’m beside myself wondering where Red and Peter Parker are … and how they are doing.
By: thegirlfromtheghetto on May 26, 2009
at 9:06 AM
Girl…Ive had about three of my blog buddes up and leave without warning (two of the same ones you mentioned.) It worries me too…
Take care of you! We totally understand.
By: The Vinyl Villager on May 26, 2009
at 9:12 AM
I totally get where you are coming from, COMPLETELY! I would love to keep our conversations going tho, so email me anytime!!
By: Xtina on May 26, 2009
at 12:16 PM
Xtina – I will, and you do the same. Thanks for undertstanding girl!
By: thegirlfromtheghetto on May 29, 2009
at 6:19 AM
OMG thank you woman, I seriously had to back off of your blog because of all the bullshit comments about ya know…….which I hated to do because I just love reading about you and your crazy life, and well crazy you. I made the mistake of clicking the Notify me of follow-up comments box………OMFG…I had e-mail backed up until who knows when, finally found the link to stop it, now I am a happy camper, can actually read my e-mail and enjoy your post once again…….hang in there, I know new meds are a bitch, and finding one that is gonna work for you even more of a bitch….but alas one day it will gel.
Thank you for taking the time to return my emails, it does show that you care, truly appreciated
By: Calamity on May 26, 2009
at 2:21 PM
Calamity – LOL. I know, it was getting out of control. I just kept doing a new post to end old comment threads. Didn’t work. LOL. Of course I’d respond to your emails, you took the time to reach out! Thanks for being my blog friend!
By: thegirlfromtheghetto on May 29, 2009
at 6:19 AM
I try to respond unless it is about reality TV shows that I don’t watch, because I don’t know what is going on and don’t tend to care much. At least not enough to freak out and fake my own death over it or anything, LOL. Yeah, I did happen to catch something on that a while back and I think it was a wee bit over the top!
I prefer your more personal posts. After all, you are pretty darn interesting you know.
By: birdpress on May 26, 2009
at 2:26 PM
Birdpress- I am still laghing about that poor crazy girl. Sigh. So many troubled kids out there. I’m glad to hear you think I’m interesting. Then again, I don’t usually post the boring stuff, like how I went to bed beofre 7pm the past two nights. Thanks for being so nice!
By: thegirlfromtheghetto on May 29, 2009
at 6:17 AM
Delurking to say I look forward to reading your blog every day. I love your writing style, sense of humor and honesty. I’m enamored of your courage and perseverance. You truly have connected with your audience and that is a rare and beautiful occurrence. So I thank you for remaining true to yourself, sharing your passions, and touching every one of us with your magnificent valor.
By: Jennifer on May 26, 2009
at 2:44 PM
Jennifer – I am glad to hear this. Wow, thanks. I always think my stuff is crappy because I rush it, and barely spell check. Thank you so much for telling me this.
By: thegirlfromtheghetto on May 29, 2009
at 6:16 AM
I concur with just about everyone else. You write I’ll read.
Hey. Maybe you can read the comments open for the readers to engage with each other.
Good luck with the memoir. I’m struggling with my first novel. Don’t leave it too late.
By: A.Jaye on May 26, 2009
at 7:31 PM
A. Jaye – I’ve left the last one open. So go at it my friend. And good luck w/your novel. Oh, it is hard!
By: thegirlfromtheghetto on May 29, 2009
at 6:12 AM
Hi- de-lurking a bit here. I’ve posted once, but have enjoyed reading you since I first found this blog. So much so, that I even added you to my blogroll on a blog I just started – just so you got some link love!
I hope you keep writing and good luck with that memoir!!! You add some brightness to my weeks!
By: vanny on May 26, 2009
at 9:41 PM
Vanny- I’ll have to stop by. I’m glad that you started blogging, I do find it fun and a way to decompress (at times!)
By: thegirlfromtheghetto on May 29, 2009
at 6:12 AM
I am like Birdpress, I don’t comment much on reality t.v. because, if I don’t watch it- I don’t have much to offer. But, I love reading about you and I love your take on things. I know you are going through a hard time now and just want you to know I’m sending up good thoughts for you!
By: JavaQueen on May 27, 2009
at 7:28 AM
JavaQueen – I’m happy to hear those good thoughts. And thankf for letting me know you are still “here.”
By: thegirlfromtheghetto on May 29, 2009
at 6:10 AM
I love your blog! Yours is the only one I read and as long as you blog I will be here!
Btw…I love Ellen Burstyn in Requiem For A Dream! Great movie…sorry your new meds make you all hyper. When you come down from it will you be sore as hell? I hope not
By: ShannonMI on May 27, 2009
at 10:06 AM
Shannon – I’m finally down from my buzz, had to go to bed before 7 the past two nights. I’m still tired, I don’t think i slept for six nights, yikes! I’m glad you are still a loyal fan. Thanks girl. Did you see my new MI post? I’d love to hear what you think about it.
By: thegirlfromtheghetto on May 29, 2009
at 6:08 AM
Why put all this pressure on yourself? Blog when you feel like it and abstain when you feel like cleaning your house for ten hours straight instead (which you would have to stick needles under my nails for me to agree to do something that domestic!)
Also, you are one of the few bloggers to offer such long replies to comments. It’s very nice. But probably not absolutely necessary. Commentators like to be acknowledged, but they do not expect you to write a novel either! And the crazy comments of people you’ve, after all, never met before, let them slide. It makes it all very entertaining!
Blogging has to remain a pleasure. As you mentioned, you are not getting paid to write. So forget the number of hits, the damn stats, the demented notion that you have to write every day, take a huge step back, and put things in perspective. Looks like you need a little breaky-poo and a vacaycay.
Good luck with your surgery!!!
By: nathaliewithanh on May 27, 2009
at 6:41 PM
Natalie – I do need a vacation. However, I wish it didn’t have to be surgery related. I do like to blog, even when I’m tired. i like to hear what people have to say about the things I’m writing about. Not too many people in my real life have time or even are interested in what I want to talk about. Thanks for your advice. I often forget to check stats, so I’m already taking that advice, lol.
By: thegirlfromtheghetto on May 29, 2009
at 6:04 AM
I agree with what everyone has said here! So I just wanted to add my vote to you continuing blogging! I understand how much work it can take, and you have high standards set for yourself and you want to produce quality writing, so I couldn’t tell you to take less time or work less on your posts. I do agree that giving up the endless battles on the KON posts is going to be good for you (and everyone else). It’s tiring and after a while you’re just having to repeat yourself, and that’s got to be exhausting. My only suggestion is to perhaps post less frequently, maybe it’ll free up some of your time…but I hate to say that because I love to read your new posts! Oh well, as long as you keep blogging, I’m happy!
By: Jen512 on May 29, 2009
at 12:37 AM
Jen 512 – I’m OCD, and it is hard not to pay attention to what people are saying here. I want to comment, and post every day. My first year I had like 340 posts. Thanks for speaking up!
By: thegirlfromtheghetto on May 29, 2009
at 5:59 AM
I know exactly what you mean. Do you go back and edit your posts over and over? I do. I can’t let it go, they must be perfect.
By: Jen512 on May 29, 2009
at 12:51 PM
Jen – Yes, I do that all the time. LOL. Insane!
By: thegirlfromtheghetto on May 29, 2009
at 1:20 PM
“I mean, I’ve had a person fake her deaths here, WTF?”
HEH?! What the hell have I been missing?!
I was also hoping that next time you’re on a cleaning streak you could hop a plane to the Dam because I need help. I’m crumbling ‘neath the weight of a junky home.
By: Amanda Blog and Kiss on May 30, 2009
at 9:30 AM
Amanda – Oh, you could spend hours in the Jon and Kate Plus 8 posts. Crazy people there, and it is all over a reality tv show about a family. Ha ha ha. I’d love to jump on a plane to Amsterdam, but I’ve been to Europe twice now so my $ is running out for things like fabulous vacations. I’d love to visit there again. So beautiful.
By: thegirlfromtheghetto on May 31, 2009
at 6:49 PM
Ive thought of going back and editing my whole blog but not sure about the time factor, moving forward hard to go backwards. I understand about wanting to post often and also the idea of just wanting a break, Blogging can be very consuming especially here looks like you have a lot of followers. Taking care of yourself looks to me the most important task. I feel you have a wonderful strength and optimism.
By: starlaschat on May 30, 2009
at 11:31 AM
Starla – When people (Like my hubby) point out errors I correct them. I always have to read my post first after it is published to catch the errors that spell check didn’t catch. Sometimes I forget, oh … it drives me nuts. I do like to post often, it is calming to write, but I’m also compulsive and it honestly bothers me if I go a few days without posting. I’m slightly nutty like that, LOL.
Thanks for thinking I have strength, because I forget that I’ve had harder battles in the past. Health is just the latest. It is hard having so many things go so wrong in my life, and I’m worried if I get laid off I won’t be able to deal with it.
By: thegirlfromtheghetto on May 31, 2009
at 6:55 PM
You must have hit upon some pretty potent topics to have gathered over a million hits in a year. That’s really impressive. Maybe that’s a little bit of what makes you feel driven in that OCD way. The Traffic puts a kind of pressure on you?
I have this one post that’s gotten almost 1000 hits and I can’t figure out why. Unless people are landing on it when they Google “colonoscopy”.
I agree with nathalie. You could cut back to whatever’s comfortable for you. It’s supposed to be recreational and ultimately it seems to be a very self-centered activity, even though other bloggers are involved. To blog or not to blog may be the ultimate question, but probably not, since blogging is probably not the ultimate anything.
I like to respond to all commentors too, but it can be a little much at times, and I just passed 30,000 hits after 2+ years of blogging, so it must be much worse for you. What’s your most popular post?
By: David on May 31, 2009
at 10:18 PM
David – Yes, I remember my first day clearly, had like 100 hits and all I could think of was “Who is coming here to read what I have to say?” It floored me. I always see you around on my friends blogs, so hello and it is nice to meet you. I don’t look at my stats too often, maybe twice per week. I’m more compulsive in general about writing, so it fuels my compulsion to blog. I’m not sure which post is the most popular, but it has to be one of the Jon and Kate posts, they have the most comments. Been writing about them for months and now that everyone is talking about them, I’m just done. Overkill. I’m cutting back on commenting after every single post and responding just a few times a week so far. And I’m cutting back on pictures to save some time. So sorry it took me so long to respond to you.
By: thegirlfromtheghetto on June 2, 2009
at 11:49 PM
Nice to meet you too.
It’s obvious that you put a lot of time into blogging, bless your heart for taking the time and writing so clearly, potently, and honestly. Saving your energy for your upcoming surgery is a great idea. My wife had a hyst. last fall and though it went well, it was a quite a kick in the ass for my super lady. I took good care of her though. Here’s to your speedy recovery! ♥
To find your most popular post, click on Blog Stats, Top Posts and Pages (right under the graph), then click “All Time”, the last link in the Summarize: list.
Thanks for replying to my comment, I’m kinda OCD about that too, but I don’t get anywhere near the quantity of comments you do. Thanks for blogging GFTG.
By: David on June 4, 2009
at 6:41 PM
David – Oh, I am sorry to hear your wife had to go through it. Must have been rough for both of you. I’m nervous about it, and if you’ve read my last post, you know that now I might get laid off right before the surgery. Oh, yes, I know where to find the top post info, I was just being lazy and not looking. It was a Gosselin post, so, this bums me out in a way, because I wish it were a post about books or travel, my life stories, etc, although plenty of people have stayed around the blog rather than only the tv chatter. Keep blogging. I think just doijng it long term grows your fan base.
By: thegirlfromtheghetto on June 6, 2009
at 1:15 PM
I really love your blog, your wit, your perspective, and sense of humor. Thanks for having a great blog.
By: Lisa M on June 3, 2009
at 11:16 PM
Lisa – I’ll open that conversation again for you. I understand it is fun to talk smack, etc, but I was gettting wierded out by the boy who has that thing for Cidney.
By: thegirlfromtheghetto on June 4, 2009
at 11:32 AM
Me too! I didn’t want him to start tracking us down on Facebook also…creepy creep.
By: Jen512 on June 4, 2009
at 12:50 PM
Right, you never know who is out there looking.
By: thegirlfromtheghetto on June 4, 2009
at 6:09 PM
I love your site,cool website!
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By: Our Own Back Yard LLC on June 8, 2009
at 6:54 PM
Go Wisconsin! Thanks for the shout out!
By: thegirlfromtheghetto on June 9, 2009
at 1:25 PM