I was doing a photo search on Photobucket.com when I stumbled across this picture 
of our favorite happily married couple Jon & Kate. (Ha ha!) Even on their wedding day in Maui Jon looks miserable. Poor Jon, does he get sick of all those slaps by Kate? I know I do! Does he mind getting verbally abused and belittled on tv weekly? Since I used to volunteer for a domestic violence shelter for two years, I know the signs, and Kate may have some of those of an abusive partner. Don’t go having a stroke on me, just read the following:
Did you know that 2% of women are batterers – and these women use power and control tactics in their intimate relationships for the purpose of gaining or maintaining power and control. Does that sound like anyone we know? Here’s the power and control wheel most shelters go by when counseling victims of DV. And since its Domestic Violence month, I thought I’d share it with you.
I’m sure this episode will be aired during sweeps in November. Stay tuned on TLC. I may hate Kate but I still watch the show. She’s so controlling its crazy!
Now that I read over the entire Domestic Violence Poster, may I please have JB cell number….LMAO
By: The Big A on October 6, 2008
at 7:57 PM
you are ridiculous
By: jaxgal on October 8, 2008
at 7:57 PM
Kate abusive? I think you read into it all too much and take her actions wayyyy too seriously. Have you not ever playfully given your partner a little smack? My hubby and I do all of the time, and we both know that it is just our way of flirting with each other. I really don’t think it bothers Jon nearly as much as it seems to bother everyone else….and at the end of the day, how he feels about it is all that matters.
She can go too far with the verbal insults sometimes, but to say that she is abusive is just silly.
By: Ann on October 15, 2008
at 8:14 PM
This is ridiculous! Are you married? Or have eight children? You have no place to judge. Jon is a big boy, he can himself just fine. If Jon and Kate are anything like my husband and I, there are things handled behind closed doors you will never see. You do not have the capacity to judge anyone.
By: Angela on October 20, 2008
at 11:18 AM
You have no place to judge yourself Angela. You don’t have to even read this blog. That’s why its so wonderful to be an American … you can think whatever you want, and I choose to write what I think when it comes to Kate.
By: thegirlfromtheghetto on October 20, 2008
at 6:02 PM
girlfromtheghetto, I agree with you 100% on everything you mentioned in this post. Kate definitely has issues. I think she is abusive. This probably stems from low self-esteem. (I still absolutely still love the show though!)
I think your post was funny and the people who left negative comments are taking your post a little too seriously. I took it as tongue in cheek.
By: Maggie on October 22, 2008
at 10:27 AM
Thanks Maggie. Glad you share my sense of humor.
By: thegirlfromtheghetto on October 22, 2008
at 11:08 AM
I have to say, girlfromtheghetto, my husband and I laughed so hard when we read your blog about Kate because we TOTALLY agree. The levels on which Kate pisses me off seem to be endless lately. I love watching the show because I think her children are just precious but come on…. Every time I watch the show and she belittles her husband (which is sometimes just as bad as physical abuse) I feel the need to appreciate my husband, and he appreciates me. (for not being like Kate) I hate that she always tries to play it off like having 8 kids is the most impossible and rare thing. There are MANY women who have eight children. Just because Kates are multiples doesn’t make her more amazing. Plus, there are many women with those eight kids who don’t get free food, clothes, vacations and gifts…
By: Jen on November 2, 2008
at 12:40 AM
I totally agree. Each week I hate Jon and Kate more. I have 6 kids under the age of 4 (4 yr old, 2 1/2 year old, and triplet 6 mo olds) and I manage just fine, without free clothes, food, pictures, vacation etc. I though this was a reality show about life with two sets of multiples. Last time I checked real people don’t have 20 people doing their work for them and a show that pays for everything. There is no reality left in this show. And my husband I might add, I’m sure I annoy him at times, and he does me, but I don’t belittle him or talk to him like he is stupid or a child. I respect him and acknowledge him as my partner in crime and thank him everyday for our six beautiful children!
By: Melissa on November 4, 2008
at 12:54 AM
Jen & Melissa – I’m glad we see eye to eye on J & K. I can’t imagine how hard it is raising a lot of little kids, but Melissa your life is living proof it can be done w/o cameras and free stuff.
By: thegirlfromtheghetto on November 4, 2008
at 9:04 AM
Are you serious posting this? wow get a life, you are the one who needs help saying Kate is abusive is just stupid. They are a happy family and they don’t need people like you to start saying stuff. They have young kids leave them alone and get a life shut up about Jon and Kate
By: Megan s on November 10, 2008
at 5:00 PM
I don’t feel Kate’s behavior as an abuser is stupid at all. Perhaps you missed my YEARS of work at a Domestic Violence shelter. Heck, even the episode of J&K+8 I just watch Kate said to Jon after slapping him “Don’t do that. Don’t play victim. I really hate that in a man. ”
She’s at the LEAST verbally and emotional abusing him. Obviously Megan, you are the stupid one for thinking there is nothing wrong with hitting someone. It doesn’t matter that he is a man. And, as long as I can remember, its a free country and I am allowed my opinions. Just as I allowed your dumb one to be posted here!
By: thegirlfromtheghetto on November 10, 2008
at 6:30 PM
jelous!you all wish you can get free stuff and your own tv show
By: anayse on November 12, 2008
at 5:29 PM
Really? You think so, huh? What I wish for are comments that have correct spelling, punctuation and are capitalized in the right spots, lol!!!
By: thegirlfromtheghetto on November 12, 2008
at 5:41 PM
Oh brother…you really ARE digging yourself into a gutter. Yes…you are totally allowed to say any pigeon-brained thing you want. And yes, there are tons of people that get along just fine without the help of a TV show but the Gosslin’s got a lucky break… so good for them! Wouldn’t you bank it for all it’s worth if it added a little more joy and opportunity to your life? There are worst families in the world and no one is perfect…especially you. So give them a break…all the negative comments are just fueling your already bloated ego.
By: em on November 13, 2008
at 4:26 AM
All I have to say is look at the name, The girl from the getto!! How fitting to your blogs. Honey just because you can not make anything of yourself, but keep trying you will get there someday! I am sure you worked at a Domestic Violence shelter because of first hand experiences. It is good you are giving back.
By: Mom in michigan on November 20, 2008
at 12:46 AM
Mom in Michigan,
Your assumption that those of us who have worked in Domestic Violence Shelters are losers is really offensive. Equally, your implication that being abused makes a woman a loser is beyond offensive. I work in a Domestic Violence Shelter ( I have not been abused) and I can tell you the majority of the women are white, middle class women who would likely sign a post “mom in [fill in the blank]…it is self-righteous breeders like you that make it bad for the rest of us…and for those women seeking help. I came here to have a good laugh and I found your ignorant comment…keep joking girlfromtheghetto.
By: Tessa on November 20, 2008
at 4:03 PM
Tessa – Thank you for making this point. Too many people assume that poor and dumb people are victims of DV. Between my career in civil service and my volunteer work at a shelter I have seen many affluent men and women abused. You can be straight, gay, male, female, young, old, smart, dumb, ethnic, white, black, latino, asian, or whatever. Violence affects everyone.
Mom in Michigan – I wasn’t sure how to take your post. I grew up in a home with an abusive stepfather and mother and brother. I broke the cycle by not dating the same types of people I grew up around. Most people can not make that break. That is why you often see abused children marry or date abusive partners. They don’t know any better, and its not their faults.
Em – I let your post through because you, too, can have freedom of speech here on this post. However, why would you think I have a bloated ego from writing this? That makes no sense to me. And what Kate is doing to Jon and those kids will be hurtful in the long wrong. I’d bet you $100 in like 12 years we hear about Mady being reckless like Paris, Britney, Lyndsey and Nicole – all children who grew up in the public eye who became drug users, alcoholics, sluts, convicts, etc.
If ANY of you think by letting these kids become famous just for the money for a few extra toys is worth if, your completely nuts. I’m just trying to say that maybe its time to stop the show to save the kids.
By: thegirlfromtheghetto on November 21, 2008
at 8:37 PM
I am just waiting for the day when Jon has enough and runs off with a 19-year-old crafts service chick or something.
By: Cindi on November 25, 2008
at 12:54 AM
Maybe it is abuse or maybe Jon’s jsut a push over and Kate’s controlling but I am too and all the things (well, most) make sense to me like when they have little fights due to misunderstandings like when they went christmas shopping
By: Sk8erGrl on November 25, 2008
at 7:06 PM
Kate has her reasons for everything she does and just because YOU don’t see eye to eye with her doesnt mean you have to say mean things about her (i know that sounded really childish) but i dont see what all the “hullaballoo” is about this and all the fighting. People that agree with ghettogirl or whatever your name is, can be her friend and everyone that doesnt won’t. maybe someone will start a blog about how great of a show it is. Also, i think (and I’m not being a hypocrite about this because i know I’m doing this too) that we’re all just showing off how strong of a personality we have by dissing people on the internet.
By: Sk8erGrl on November 25, 2008
at 7:13 PM
girlfromtheghetto– i really admire you for breaking away and standing up for yourself and taking action and if you want the show to stop, go for it. I used to think, from reading your bitter blogs, that you were a bitch but after reading about your family, i have to say i was wrong and sorry but i still stand by my beliefs about J&K. Also, i think these comments have turned into us bitching about our own problems.
By: Sk8erGrl on November 25, 2008
at 7:19 PM
Cindi – I laughed at that. I think Jon is very aware what child support for 8 kids would cost him, and to fight that beast in court for custody would just about kill him.
Sk8erGrl – Well, I began writing a few things about Kate and Jon because I was in shock when I read about all the controversy. I’m not trying to put her down, ruin her life, or cancel the show … I’m just more “Thinking out loud.” Don’t forget this was written months ago.
By: thegirlfromtheghetto on January 22, 2009
at 8:36 PM